Ask around at your place of worship, or check the Spiritual Directors International Seek and Find Guide. Spiritual direction is not a licensed profession in any state or country, as far as I know, so it’s up to you to ask questions and make sure that you feel comfortable with whomever you select as your spiritual director.
Ideally, every spiritual director should be under some type of supervision. The differences between spiritual direction and therapy, pastoral counseling, friendship, and caretaking are sometimes tricky to discern, and meeting regularly with a supervisor or supervision group can help.
I ask my supervisees to read and sign a boilerplate agreement that covers some general ground: what services I can and can’t provide, our agreed-to rate for payment, my commitment to confidentiality, and the limits that I must put on confidentiality in exceptional cases.
When someone contacts me about meeting for spiritual direction, I am curious to learn what the person is expecting and hoping for from direction, and how the logistics of a direction relationship would work for them and for me. It’s a chance for both of us to get a sense of each other and whether we are a good match.
My review of Candlelight, by Susan Phillips.